{"id":280,"date":"2011-03-21T02:13:45","date_gmt":"2011-03-21T08:13:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/?p=280"},"modified":"2011-03-21T07:51:27","modified_gmt":"2011-03-21T13:51:27","slug":"a-fight-is-like-a-party-he-said","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/2011\/03\/21\/a-fight-is-like-a-party-he-said\/","title":{"rendered":"“A fight is like a party!” he said."},"content":{"rendered":"

I really need support from my coaches. After my fight, I was depressed. I talked to Abe-san and he smiled and said, “There’ll be a next time! Just train hard! It’s alright! You need more physical training! Come to my kids wrestling class! Become stronger!” Thank you, Abe-san.<\/p>\n

I really looked forward to my lesson with Kunioku-san today. It was our first time meeting since my fight. Whenever I’m feeling down, for some reason I always feel calm and more confident when he’s around. Celine said she noticed that, too. (She’d come to London to corner me together with him)<\/p>\n

(At King of the Cage, Jan 2010)
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First of all, he didn’t speak a word of Japanese the whole lesson, which was amazing. I asked why he wasn’t speaking Japanese, and he just laughed at me. He’s so mysterious. I said, “Look at my hat!” and showed it to him, which had “smile” written on it. He squinted at it and said, “Smee-lei?” purposely mispronouncing the word. I laughed and flipped it around. The back said, ‘peace.’ He said, “Uh, peach?” I nearly cried with laugher. XD XD <\/p>\n

I then asked him, “So if you practice something, you’re supposed to get better at it, right?”. He nodded. “So then why,” I continued, “can’t I seem to do striking well? I practice so much.”<\/p>\n

“I don’t know,” he said with a smile, shaking his head. “Practice! Just practice! The most important thing is to never give up. If you give up, everything will be nothing.”<\/p>\n

“But, I’ve been practicing for years…”
\n“You know, a fight is a party! It like a party! It’s a fight! You don’t know what gonna happen!”. He struggled to say more but couldn’t find the English.<\/p>\n

I stopped. I thought. I reflected. I smiled. A party. I was wondering if he’d be able to say something to inspire me. This was it? lol Interesting comparison. True, a fight is fun… like a party. Well, at the time it’s hard and painful.. But he’s right. I should not forget my love of the fight, and I have to stop holding myself to set expectations I have to do this or that in a fight, or I’ll only make myself miserable if I can’t do it. Just see the opponent, aim, FIRE! <\/p>\n

…it’s just so depressing to practice and practice and still not be as good as I want, and disappoint certain people…I got so depressed after Cage Warriors, you have no idea. \ud83d\ude41 Yodchatri from the Singapore gym Evolve tweeted a quote: “Studies have shown that the pain of losing is 100% greater than the joy of winning.That’s why you have to love what you do.” I totally agree.<\/p>\n

Thank you, Kunioku-san. You are exactly the person I needed to talk to. You’re always there for me. Everything feels better now. It’s all inside. That’s why you’re my hero.
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\n(before Cage Warriors)<\/p>\n

[edit] I have a sinking feeling part of my problem is my extremely poor eye-sight…but I’m deathly afraid of surgery and I can’t wear contacts… maa,nan to ka naru sa! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I really need support from my coaches. After my fight, I was depressed. I talked to Abe-san and he smiled and said, “There’ll be a next time! Just train hard! It’s alright! You need more physical training! Come to my kids wrestling class! Become stronger!” Thank you, Abe-san. I really looked forward to my lesson…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-280","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-fight","category-training","category-7","category-4","description-off"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/280","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=280"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/280\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=280"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=280"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=280"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}