{"id":6412,"date":"2016-08-25T22:18:02","date_gmt":"2016-08-26T04:18:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/?p=6412"},"modified":"2016-08-26T08:30:36","modified_gmt":"2016-08-26T14:30:36","slug":"title-fight-psychology-victory","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/2016\/08\/25\/title-fight-psychology-victory\/","title":{"rendered":"Title fight psychology"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve been having trouble sleeping.  I think it&#8217;s daylight savings time nearing it&#8217;s end (that always happens to me).  It doesn&#8217;t help that I have been feeling more anxious over the past two weeks about my fight.  Psychology is so interesting.  You can know things in your brain but your body reacts a different way despite that.<\/p>\n<p>I wake up at 2 AM, thinking about my fight.  Wake up at 2:30 thinking about my fight.  Then 3:45.<br \/>\nI have been telling myself that this \u201ctitle\u201d really is just a title, and a fight is a fight, so I only really care more about the fight than the title.  I&#8217;ve had a few traumatic experiences where I hadn&#8217;t done enough stamina training and my arms and legs felt like heavy lead, so I know that this absolutely can&#8217;t happen this time. Since I&#8217;ve been at Syndicate, this has never happened, though.  Only in Japan and on the Ultimate Fighter.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been doing my homework, i.e. running stairs and doing burpie sets throughout the week.  So before I started my circuit sessions these past two weeks, I was thinking, \u201cI BETTER be able to get through this no problem!\u201d And that thought lead to, \u201cIf not, that means my favorite method of cardio isn\u2019t good enough!\u201d And that thought lead to, \u201cI\u2019ll be behind and not able to get in good enough shape.\u201d So there were three worries right there.<\/p>\n<p>But the sessions went very well and proved that everything is fine.  Same thing on Wednesday when John and Jess shark-tanked me.  I felt anxious before that and awesome and confident afterwards.<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/2016\/08\/25\/title-fight-psychology-victory\/john-jess-roxy-shark-tank\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-6422\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/john-jess-roxy-shark-tank.jpg\" alt=\"john jess roxy shark tank\" width=\"490\" height=\"367\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6422\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.maverickunbranded.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.maverickunbranded.com\/<\/a><br \/>\nI realized that I\u2019ve been imagining training days as how it\u2019s going to come out in the fight, which is not necessarily good.  \u201cI better be able to land this punch or else\u2026\u201d  \u201cIt\u2019ll suck if I can\u2019t last the whole class because blah blah hurts\u2026.\u201d  If I got taken down by a teammate and try a technique and it failed, I got stressed out. Tuesday, one of my nagging injuries that comes and goes was really bugging me, and I was feeling nervous about being  able to perform the techniques I\u2019d been practicing in my private lessons.  Usually I just \u201cwant\u201d to land the techniques. I don\u2019t worry about \u201coh what if I can\u2019t.\u201d  Two worries.  But I did it and it was all fine.  I powered through it practice without gassing out and it was alright.  <\/p>\n<p>Yep, negative thoughts.  I hadn\u2019t even realized I was thinking negative thoughts.  I\u2019m usually pretty good about siphoning them out.  That&#8217;s why they call me The Happy Warrior. With the help of my coach and Mom and friends, sometimes.<\/p>\n<p> Testing myself with the hard rounds this week pretty  much confronted and eliminated those anxieties.<\/p>\n<p> I used to drive to training thinking merry thoughts like, \u201cOh boy, I wonder how many combinations I\u2019ll be able to land today. I can\u2019t wait to try and foil Shawn\u2019s takedowns. I can\u2019t wait to try and escape from Hannah\u2019s guard. I can\u2019t wait to try and take down Jessica off the cage.  I\u2019ll see if I can avoid Adam\u2019s lightning combos.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>My mom texted me the following:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWell, being anxious\/stressing out\/worrying seems to be fear in disguise.  You are not a fearful person. You are not driven by fear.  Somehow you have to internalize your confidence in yourself to combat the fear.  Know in your heart and soul that you are performing to the best of your ability.  You need to search out that thought that is making you anxious and confront that fear.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That reminds me of what Coach John tells me before fights \u2013 you know in your heart that you did your best to prepare to the best of your ability.  Have confidence in the techniques.<\/p>\n<p> I am genuinely excited to go to Syndicate every single day.  Every day holds new challenges and potential for growth.  Potential for pain, too, but I don\u2019t think about that.  So yesterday I just let the whole fight thing go and went to the gym to train and get better and try my techniques. I love doing MMA &#8211; that&#8217;s the bottom line. When the fight day arrives, I will apply those techniques to my opponent.  No use stressing out over landing or not landing a take-down at the moment.  Just try it, learn from it, get better from it.  I\u2019m in great shape already.  I already proved that I have the stamina and skills and now I just have to wait for fight day!   I have great tools in my tool box.  And there will be more by the time the fight rolls around.  I have a great, strong, skilled opponent waiting for me.  And a strong, caring, supportive team behind me.<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/2016\/08\/25\/title-fight-psychology-victory\/team-syndicate-august-2016-smaller\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-6413\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/team-syndicate-august-2016-smaller.jpg\" alt=\"team syndicate august 2016- smaller\" width=\"624\" height=\"523\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6413\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/2016\/08\/19\/my-title-fight-my-kids-comedy-show\/shawn-and-adam-and-roxy\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-6407\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/shawn-and-adam-and-roxy.jpg\" alt=\"shawn and adam and roxy\" width=\"612\" height=\"612\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6407\" \/><\/a><br \/>\nI have loving friends and fans around me. Dude, you&#8217;ve gotta be a die-hard fan or best friend to dress up like this, right?!<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/2016\/08\/25\/title-fight-psychology-victory\/invicta-16-weigh-in-mortal-kombat-group\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-6414\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/invicta-16-weigh-in-mortal-kombat-group.jpg\" alt=\"invicta 16 weigh in mortal kombat group\" width=\"689\" height=\"405\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6414\" srcset=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/invicta-16-weigh-in-mortal-kombat-group.jpg 689w, http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/invicta-16-weigh-in-mortal-kombat-group-632x371.jpg 632w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 689px) 100vw, 689px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/2016\/08\/25\/title-fight-psychology-victory\/john-wrapping-hands-smaller\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-6415\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/john-wrapping-hands-smaller.jpg\" alt=\"john wrapping hands smaller\" width=\"294\" height=\"392\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6415\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p> I&#8217;m tempted to say, &#8220;I can&#8217;t possibly lose!&#8221; but of course I can lose.  That&#8217;s why it&#8217;s a fight, and I&#8217;m so ready.<\/p>\n<p>I walked into the gym excited to try my techniques and it was a really amazing practice with no stress or fear.  Chapter 7, \u201cBe Excited about Everything.\u201d  Bam!!! Read my book, sold here:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RSite\/node\/8\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RSite\/node\/8<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Haha Coach John had once told me, \u201cGo read your own book\u201d one day when I looked down. He\u2019s right.  He\u2019s <strike>always<\/strike> usually right. \ud83d\ude09<br \/>\nI just did a radio interview and one of the guys said, \u201cYou never have a bad day!\u201d Hah not true. But I know how I think and I can manipulate my own emotions with my thoughts. Lol  read my book\u2026..<\/p>\n<p>Big goals or tasks are always overwhelming. You always have to break them down into little small short-term, easily achievable goals.  Finish this scramble.  Then finish this round. Then get a new partner and finish the first minute.  Then finish the round.  Before you know it, you got through a tough training sessions. Don&#8217;t think ahead.  Things never happen as you imagine they will.<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/2016\/08\/25\/title-fight-psychology-victory\/img_2005\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-6416\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/IMG_2005.jpg\" alt=\"IMG_2005\" width=\"580\" height=\"326\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6416\" \/><\/a><br \/>\nSame for other things in life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve been having trouble sleeping. I think it&#8217;s daylight savings time nearing it&#8217;s end (that always happens to me). It doesn&#8217;t help that I have been feeling more anxious over the past two weeks about my fight. Psychology is so interesting. You can know things in your brain but your body reacts a different way&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6412","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-fight","category-friends","category-7","category-9","description-off"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6412","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6412"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6412\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6427,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6412\/revisions\/6427"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6412"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6412"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/roxannemodafferi.net\/RBlog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6412"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}