Roxanne Modafferi

The Happy Warrior

Wedding in Mass, promotion, studying Japanese, training, update!

Posted in every day, family and holidays, friends, training on May 10th, 2018 by roxyfighter

I kind of fell off with my Japanese studying and I’m ashamed of myself. It has been my yearly resolution for years, five years exactly, ever since I left Japan. I’m not talking to my Japanese friends as much, not studying my notes, not writing as many blogs…. I have to do something and be more strict with myself. One reason is that I discovered I could take naps after breakfast. People ask me what I do when I wake up (unintentionally) at 4 AM every day. Well, after breakfast, I clean, do chores, use social media, study, write blogs, watch anime, stuff like that. But then I started falling asleep while watching anime and woke up an hour later feeling GREAT. So I intentionally started putting on slow-moving shows like the old Godzilla movies (sorry Serena) which knock me right out. There goes my extra hour. 🙁

I always keep promises to myself, but maybe I need to reexamine this. Maybe schedule a time, like how at 10 AM every Sunday I call my college friend Q, or 3 PM every Saturday I call Mom. Maybe 7 AM every morning I’ll study song lyrics for ten minutes. That should be doable. That makes 70 minutes every week…

Alright.

This past week was exciting! On Friday I trained, taught kids, and then took a 10 PM night flight to Boston to visit my Dad and attend my step-brother Peter’s wedding. It was such a nice ceremony and event. Everybody looked great.

I wore a dress….

Lots of lovey-dovey speeches and stuff. My dad got remarried after I had graduated from college, so I never grew up with my step-family, but they are really good people. Congratulations, Peter and Megan!

The wedding was Sunday, so Saturday morning, everybody was involved with rehearsals and such preparations, so I went to Joe Lauzon’s MMA academy! It was literally down the street. I really enjoyed the grappling and opted out of the kickboxing part of it. I was sleep deprived, didn’t feel like getting hit in the head by people I didn’t know, and was getting over a light shoulder/neck strain. I grappled some really skilled people! Thanks for the hospitality, guys! 😀 I love traveling but hate how it messes up my training schedule. I always return home to Vegas feeling stiff, out of shape, and not as sharp.

I met Joe when I was a freshman in college, because I went to UMass Amherst and attended MMA and grappling events where he was. I remember a “Mass Destruction” MMA show that helped run because my coach Kirik was friends with the promoter Kipp. I think I helped build the ring. I was sitting at the T-shirts table getting ready to sell them, when someone shouted, “So-and-so dropped out of the fight.” Joe spoke up, “I’ll fight! I have my stuff!”

This was back in 2005 or 2006, I think? He just got in the ring and fought that night. And beat the other guy up. WHO DOES THAT?! That’s freaking amazing. He’s such a bad-@$$. Great person and I’m such a fan. I was so thrilled when he got in the UFC. Such an inspiration. When people ask me who my favorite fighter is, I say “Matt Serra and Joe Lauzon.”

I didn’t get to train with him this time, but it was cool to see him.

I promoted my student Aleena on Monday! I’m so proud of her! She’s been training constantly for about a year and a half. It’s hard to know when to promote kids because I want to award her hard work, but lots of schools hold their kids back so they can go to tournaments and beat up other white belts. It’s also a reflection on my teaching…I have to make sure I teach her enough and teach her well to be a good jiujitsu player. Some schools award belts based on time and attendance, not necessarily ability.

I felt so happy I almost cried to tie the belt around her waist. She was smiling so hard and was so happy! I love her so much!

Look at the expressions on everybody’s faces! hahaha So funny and cute!
When I went to take a pic with her, she jumped on my back and half-choked me. Hah. She likes to choke me. But I taught her that chokes are fun, so I do not mind. XD

We now have four new gray-white belts in my little kids class. Katie got promoted in the big kids class, so we have three new ranks there. yay congrats! 😀

My buddy and training partner Chelsea Rae has her first amateur fight coming up in June! I’m so excited for her to step in the cage and show her skills! She’s been helping me out by being my partner for wrestling and jiujitsu private lessons, and I’ve been trying to teach her stuff, too. This is literally the definition of “teamwork.” lol She’s looking for sponsors to help out with covering fight expenses, (like private lesson fees, printing clothing, diet food, weight-cut supplies, etc) so if you are interested in helping, hit me up! basilisk875 at Yahoo.com Or message on Facebook or twitter or whatever.

I haven’t done gi jiujitsu in a bit. :/ I miss it, but I have to refocus on my fight prep. I’ve done more conditioning and have started to feel like I’m getting back in MMA fight shape. It’s a totally different state of fitness. Right, John? I invited a new friend I made at Dunham’s BJJ, John Freeman, to come in and do the MMA grappling class with me and help me out, because 1) he’s cool 2) I can trust him not to injure me 3) he can out-technique me 4) he’s around my weight. Thanks a lot! Hope to see you next Monday!

My friend suggested I make an Amazon Wish list… I don’t want people to think I’m fishing for gifts, but why not make a list, I guess? I’ve been blessed with surprise packages from time to time. It makes me happy just to get anybody’s letter or kind word that they are thinking of me and wishing me well!

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About great training and my family visit!

Posted in family and holidays, training on February 10th, 2018 by roxyfighter

My fan-turned-friend, Katie, came to Las Vegas to compete in a big Tae Kwon Do tournament at the end of January. Congratulations for getting second place, my friend! Then she came and helped me teach my BJJ kids class, and then we took her to BJJ class the next day, and made her stay for MMA practice. She hung with the MMA fighters! Well done! 😀
We also watched My Hero Academia together.


So after training on Thursday Fed 1st, I took a night flight to New Jersey to visit family. I didn’t know that Spirit Airline seats wouldn’t recline, so I didn’t get ANY SLEEP. I had been counting on a few hours!! Dang it!

I used to try and the complete rounds during Christmas time, but a week and a half is a long time to be away from home for me, so I started breaking it up into two trips. This time, I saw my aunt, my dad’s sister, and my cousins, who are around my age.


My cousin’s kids, who are almost 3 and 4 respectively, have grown so much and are talking! We had a lot of fun just hanging out, and also went to the Liberty Science Center on Saturday. My Aunt Connie cooked us super delicious Italian food that I’ve missed so much. Thank you for making the effort, and for bringing everybody together! I loved it so much. It was so fulfilling.

On Sunday morning, I drove an hour north to NY, and my mom drove two hours south, and we met near where my other aunt, her sister, lives. My mom had been saying she might not come because of snowy winter weather, but I’m thrilled it wasn’t bad, so she came. YAY I’m so happy! 🙂 We had lunch and then walked around a flea market, where she bought some DVDs and I enjoyed perusing. We met up with my aunt and uncle and ate dinner, chatted, and watched half of the Superbowl. It was really nice! <3

Then Monday morning, I woke up in my hotel in Fishkill at 2 AM, drove an hour and a half to the Newark Airport, and almost experienced my worst nightmare A SECOND TIME getting lost trying to find the Enterprise Rental Car return. omfg I hate that airport. It’s under construction with no clear signs how to get to the car returns. A few years ago I spent an hour driving in circles, getting on and off the high way with nobody to ask since it was like 5 AM, and ended up parking in a Hertz lot, mailing my keys back. This time I FINALLY found it. So THIS TIME it took me only like two wrong turns and a few minutes of panic and then deep breathing to find it. ;_;

I departed at 6:30 AM and arrived in Vegas at 9:00 AM, in time to drive to Syndicate and do mitts with John, and MMA class. Yay. But I was so slow. x_x I still got good practice in!

These past weeks have been great! I’ve been really smart about training. I think I’ve gotten my schedule balanced, finally. I’m happy with my mini gi lessons Casey-sensei has been giving me and Serena Mondays and Tuesdays, and he’s really been paying attention to my grappling training and giving me advice.

I’ve been rolling no gi on Wednesdays between my wrestling privates and physical training. I’ve been rolling with kids Coach Rick every Wednesday after our kids class and learning stuff with him. I’m improving my striking with John, as usual, and he knows just what I need to get better at wrestling. I’ve managed to do two days a week of physical training with Lorenzo without breaking my body too much! In fact, I feel strength increases! 😀 That’s really exciting.
Great group of strong and skilled women in class!


I’ve started utilizing the UFC Performance Institute for the weight training room and the ice bath/ hot tub. It’s great for recovery!

Alexa Conners is back and doing her training camp at Syndicate. I’ve been enjoying training with her a lot! She has a fight against Carina Damm March 10th in North Dakota, in BeatDown 21.

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Christmas vacation on the east coast!

Posted in every day, family and holidays, fun on January 4th, 2018 by roxyfighter

I had a really super duper vacation. It really felt like vacation! For the first time in years, I didn’t feel the itch to get to a gym and train while I was in Boston or NY. I wouldn’t have minded, though. I had JUST fought so I didn’t mind just relaxing, spending time with my parents, and eating whatever. I did miss my Aunt’s Italian cooking, though!!

It was FREEZING so I didn’t even want to take walks around the block like I usually do. I did squats, lunges, and push ups in my room, though.

I especially enjoyed chatting with my dad this visit. He gave me lots of financial advice and taught me how to sell the stocks he bought for me a decade ago. He is vast ocean of knowledge and I’m fortunate to be he daughter, for many different reasons. 😀
My UMass friend Q-chan came over on Christmas eve and we hung out and played board games!

Survive, my game, and Qwirkle, one she brought! omg I love that game!

It was so good to see you again! <3 In the afternoon on Christmas, I took my rental car and drove to upstate NY, where I visited with my mom. It was FREAKING FREEZING. Her apartment's heater was....ok let me put it this way. My dad's heater:
My Mom’s heater:

I was wearing layers of shirts and socks and my hat in the place. :/ I shoveled for the first time in like 15 years! Well, technically the first time was to dig my car out in Boston, and then in front of my grandfather’s old house.

I enjoyed going shopping for random things with Mom, and walking around an aquarium! We saw seahorses swimming around actively. I’ve never seen that before. Usually they’re just hanging out on sea plants, but these guys were super active.


We also played a board game called Survive that we always played when I was a kid!

We went out for dinner with my aunt and uncles, and it was really nice. <3 Then Mom and I went out for lunch with one of my uncles the next day. The following day I few back home. It felt like a long vacation! Now I'm back to teaching and training. My new training schedule is....I'm trying to tweak it still so I'm not satisfied with my routine yet. Still trying to figure out a balance. Thanks to my blog sponsor www.myconsumerit.com
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Charity Go-kart, my strong BJJ kids, TV / anime shows, movies, training, Meerkatsu

Posted in every day, family and holidays, friends, fun, training on October 30th, 2017 by roxyfighter

These past few weeks have been packed with activity, accomplishments, new things, successes, and stress.

I wouldn’t have it any other way.
On Friday October 20th, I rushed home from teaching kids classes to PPV Fusion Fight League in Montana and watch my friend Jessica Borga fight in the main event. It was a tough, back and forth fight that I thought she might win if it went to decision, but she got overwhelmed in the last few seconds and the ref stopped the fight. I’m sad, and my heart goes out to her, but it was a good fight and I’m proud of how hard she trained and prepared for the fight. She even came out to Vegas to train with us at Syndicate! <3

On Sunday the 22nd, I participated in Comedian Mike Hammer’s Celebrity Go-Kart racing event. Various Celebrities would compete against the public (who would donate). Donations went to Wounded Warriors and other Veteran charities.

click here for article and more pics

I had to reschedule my day for it and it turned out to be detrimental to my only weekly recovery day, but I’m really glad I had this experience. I’ve always wanted to do charity work, but figured it would have to be when I got rich and could AFFORD to do it. I’m so honored to have been invited! I’m not sure how much of me actually being there contributed to dollars earned but oh well. I think the event made $5,600. It was a new experience for me! I’d never ridden a go-kart before and I was super nervous. I met a new friend! The lady who helped me sign up, Kenzy, was really nice. I signed up, went and got pictures taken on the red carpet, and then had nothing else to do, so I loitered by the table and chatted with Kenzy for like 3 hours. LOL

She is amazing. Working as a school teacher now, she and her husband both used to serve in the military. She has a large family, and I can’t imagine the time and energy it takes to do all that she does! I met a few of her kids and they were super nice.

Nobody else told me anything, so she helped me find out where to go, how to put on the helmet, etc. 😀 Thank you, Kenzy!
So finally it was my turn.
Everybody told me it was just like Mario Kart.
Alrighty then.
When I stepped on the gas to go to the starting line, it was a little scary. Was it like car where I could crash and burn? Probably not since kids were playing. But I witnessed people crash, get whiplash, get spun around, start going backwards and have to wait for staff to turn their car around. I didn’t want to be one of those guys.

Usually, when I’m playing a racing video game, I do practice rounds so I can get a feel for the car, course, and handling. No such luck then. But I have played a lot of car games…they’re my favorite, actually. Twisted Metal (all of them), Top Gear, Mario Kart, Chocobo Racing, etc….
The staff guy with the flags lined us up and said, “Ready?”
A little voice in my brain said, “I am SO NOT READY.”
“GO!”


(Pic from Kenzy)

Vrooooooooom! Everybody floored it. My car shot forward. Suddenly there was a really sharp turn. I stepped on the break. Everybody passed me as I took the turn slowly.
“Alright, Roxy, you have 5 laps. The goal of lap 1 is to not crash into any walls.”
Achieved it.
“Okay, goal of lap 2 is to figure out how fast you can take these turns.”
Achieved. I was still 10th place out of 10 cars, but I started getting closer to the #9 guy.
“Okay, Rox, now start passing people!”
I did! It was scary! LOL I realized I was holding my breath as I was going around curves, clutching the wheel and turning as hard as I could, so I had to force myself to breath. It was crazy. My arms were getting a workout from holding onto the wheel so hard. By the 5th lap, I had passed 4 people, and took 6th out of 10. Not too horrible for my first race ever! 😀 I was very pleased, since my initial goal was to not be last.

Then I went home, exhausted from my week. lol

The previous day I had done a private, the whole BJJ class, and kickboxing sparring. That morning I had run stairs and did yoga. I pretty much watched TV on my computer for the rest of the day.

These past few weeks, I watched ID-0 on NETFLIX, a twelve-episode anime about how humans can transfer their consciousnesses into robots to do work and space exploration. I give it a 7 out of 10 rating.

I also finished season 2 of Transformers Prime. OMG It’s looking bleek for the autobots! 9/10 rating

I watched a bit of Dragon Ball Super. 6/10 rating It’s good but hasn’t gripped me yet.

I watched the first Kingsman to prepare for the second movie. I LOVED IT! 10/10

I watched the Tinkerbell movie “The Great Fairy Rescue.” It was sweet! I felt all warm and fuzzy inside. 9/10

Last weekend, I saw the Lego Ninjago movie in the theater with Serena. It was pretty good! I still liked the first movie and the Batman movie better. 7/10

The week before that, I saw The Foreigner with Jackie Chan with Serena and her family. It was alright…not what I expected. I thought he was going to try and get a kidnapped daughter back, not avenge her death. That’s depressing. 6/10

This past weekend, Serena and I saw Kingsman: Golden Circle. IT WAS SO FANTASTIC! 10/10 Dude! The plot! The way action was interspersed with slower plot development scenes, the camera-work, the acting, the hummor! omg I loved it! I could go see it again! The music! The fight scenes were so bad-ass! I want to learn how to use a lasso now. LOL And I haven’t seen a whip used in a fight like that since Indiana Jones. hmm there’s gotta have been another hero movie… I’m not sure. Elton John was hilarious! I didn’t know he could act. And that President of the United States………………………….

I fell asleep to One Punch Man last night. I’m on ep 7.

Moving on. The general level of my kids class has gone up, and I’m very pleased.

My little girl Aleena is able to hold her own against the toughest kids in my class – the Russian boys Eli and Artem. After drilling arm-bar escapes, I put Aleena against Eli (he’s like 5 inches taller and 2 years older) and watched closely….he always goes for it, and she successfully escaped it!! 😀 I WAS SO PROUD OMG.
(Eli vs Zachary)

I’ve been giving private lessons to Scarlett, Kyani, Griffin, and Grady. They’ve all been growing quickly thanks to that! It’s so satisfying.

Ky and Wesley! He just got promoted lately!

This past weekend I coached my students Kaiden and Preston at the FUJI BJJ tournament!
Preston:

Also Evan, who I goes to the big kids class Rick leads and I only assist, so it’s not like I can take credit for his technique like I can the other two. LOL

Evan did a mean bow-and-arrow….like, spine twister style.

But they all got first place in one division, and Kaiden and Preston got second in another division.

Kaiden!

My training has been phenomenal. I’m getting in physically better and better shape. I lost a pound or two of fat. I think I’ve gained some muscle. I’m learning a ton of jiujitsu from Captain in our private lessons.

Captain hasn’t been in the MMA class lately … he’s been focusing on his jiujitsu, which is good, but I miss him. ;_; Every dayyyyyy

Also Casey’s classes were fun. We’re focusing on X-guard, ashigarai positions, de la riva, and sweeps, in the gi.

I got a shipment of Meerkatsu stuff in! I have loved Seymour Yang’s artwork for years.
check this out! Little mini posters and stuff here:
https://www.redbubble.com/people/meerkatsu


I’ve bought posters and rash guards. This time, I got new tights, two new rashguards, T-shirts, and a gi. I’m so stoked! 😀
Here’s a pic of me with Mike Pyle, who rolled with me for like 20 minutes and gave me grappling advice. I learn very well from him and have learned a ton over the years when he made appearances in MMA class and taught us! Also in private lessons! Thanks, Mike!

And this is the Twilight Omoplata rash guard!
https://www.meerkatsu.com/product/meerkatsu-twilight-omoplata-rashguard/

John looks more tired than me. lol I just hit pads with him. John works as hard as us fighters!

This rash guard is “Red’s Revenge”
https://www.meerkatsu.com/product/meerkatsu-reds-revenge-rashguard/

I carved a pumpkin with Serena on Friday and made it Arucardo from Hellsing!

and this guy Eryk who is a UFC fighter came into the gym on the same day I did wearing a DBZ rash guard! HOW COOL!!! We did not plan this.

Japan trip: Friday-Sunday (UFC Japan, friends, training)

Posted in cultural, family and holidays, fun on October 3rd, 2017 by roxyfighter

My trip to Japan was awesome and very fulfilling.

I left early Thursday morning and arrived Friday afternoon in Haneda. I’m always going to fly into Haneda instead of Narita from now on. I had heard it was closer, but dude! FIFTEEN MINUTES BY local TRAIN, as opposed to two hour and $34 by express train. I think tickets to Narita had always been cheaper so I went with cheaper, but for that amount of convenience and ease, I’m always going with Haneda, no matter what the cost.

I landed at 1:15 PM and got into Kawasaki around 2:15ish. I checked into my hotel and my friend and former training partner Goto-san met me there. We chatted a bit, and then went shopping to Lazona’s Daiso shop. On the way, I ate the best Taco Yaki IN MY LIFE. Mentaiko cheese flavor. maaaaan. My body was tired and it felt late, but I went to bed around 6:30 PM, exhausted. Of course I woke up around 1 AM, but went back to sleep for another hour! Then woke up, ate breakfast, took a walk, but couldn’t fall back to sleep like I often do. Oh well. I figured out that I could actually stream Netflix on my phone using the pocket wifi that I bought (BEST INVENTION EVER!), so I watched an episode of The 100. Seasons 2 and 3 have really been stressing me out. x_x Anyone could die at any minute and I’ve come to care about the characters.

Anyway, I met my friend Tsuru-chan at 7 AM at Kawasaki station and we went to Saitama Super Arena together to watch UFC Japan! It was being broadcast Friday night in America, so that means the event had to be held Saturday morning in Japan because of the time difference.

Oh man, it was such a good card! Most of the fights were so exciting. I was super impressed with Claudia and Jessica. I was surprised K-Taro won a decision, actually, but really happy for him. He wasn’t really aggressive. Okami was a samurai and fought last minute two weight classes above, but did a crappy takedown and got Von Flu choked out in the first round. x_x Yashabo won. Yay. Tsuru-chan and I were near where they walked out, so that was cool.

I went straight to Groundslam after the event, but afternoon pro practice had already ended, so I stretched out with Nori-p and a few others, and then went home. Later that evening, I met Kunioku-san, my former striking coach, in Yokohama and we ate Yaki niku together. It’s always fun chatting with him.

and Yaki niku!

Sunday was great. I ate and then went to morning class at Groundslam. Kimura-san was teaching. There were quite a few people there! I was impressed! I got a nice workout in!

After that, I showered and took the train an hour to Sagami-oono, which I haven’t visted since I went for the purpose of playing Dance Dance Revolution like ten years ago when that was the closest machine I knew. haha. There, I met my friend Midori, who was a former Berlitz English student who I made friends with. Then we met up with her husband and two kids who had become teenagers! wow. Together, we went to a city fair and watched her youngest daughter, who is four years old, do an English song and dance performance put on by her English school. It was so nice to spend time with Midori! She had been pregnant with her youngest when I left four years ago.

Then, I took the train to Atsugi city, which was kind of nearby, and walked around my old home! I love Atsugi and lived there for four years before I moved to Kawasaki. So my favorite sembei shop had gone out of business so I was sad. And my favorite bakery didn’t have the crunchy mentaiko pan I LOVE SO MUCH AND OMG two years ago when I went, I didn’t get to have it either, and last year I didn’t have time to go to Atsugi, so I’m pretty bent out of shape that they ran out and I didn’t get any. *huff*

I had really good taiyaki, though.

I went back to Kawasaki and had tea after dinner with Goto-san! He gave me models of two statues for my birthday, which was this day. It was great to chat with him and have tea like we used to frequently!!

Monday I went to Groundslam morning pro practice. Kunioku-san asked me to do warmups with him. We did like two five minute rounds of takedown uchikomis, and then I just held on and we did a round of grappling. LOL Then we put on gloves and did MMA. It was so cool! I was honored that he wanted to train with me. He kept taking me down. Effortlessly. haha it’s cool that despite me getting better, some things never change. I also sparred with Uno-san, Tokoro-san, and Shinashi Satoko san, who had started going to Groundslam lately. I had so much fun! I didn’t go killer speed with anybody and didn’t get hurt. That’s pretty much what I wanted!

Dude, Shinashi is such a veteran! Her record is 36 and 3. THIRTY NINE FIGHTS!!!! (I’ve had 38 but my record ain’t as good as that!) I was watching her fight around the time I had my debut fight in Japan!

I was actually so excited and psyched to be able to roll with her! Her grappling is slick!

It’s such an honor to train with Uno-san! He fought in first UFC I ever watched when I was 18.

Then I went to Shinagawa and met Karla, my former co-worker, for lunch. It was so great to catch up with her! She has since advanced her position and of course tried to get me to return to the company. Haha I really REALLY loved working at Berlitz. But that time has passed… Thanks for the presents! She gave me a minion hat and the hilarious thing is that I’ll probably end up wearing that out at some point…. hah!