Roxanne Modafferi

The Happy Warrior

Fighting soon, book,Kerry&Emma, kids BJJ, anime,

Posted in every day, friends, training on February 10th, 2016 by roxyfighter

I really enjoyed having Kerry and also Emma here from England to train! Kerry was here for two weeks, Emma, one. Kerry first visited when she came for TUF 23 tryouts and decided to come back. 😀 She’s super cool – a strong woman personality wise and physically. She’s a police officer back in England!
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I wish we could have hung out more, but my normal life style leaves me tired and not wanting to do anything after training and teaching kids. u_U ah well.
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I’ve been learning lots of cool stuff in my kickboxing mitt sessions with John. I feel like I have more tools in my tool box to use in fights. However there is one move that I hate and can never do and he wants me to practice it and I think in our next session I’m gonna get scolded when I protest… lol ^^;;

Anyway! This week has been great so far. My weight is going down slowly but surely. My cardio and stamina is going up. Thanks to Magic Masseus Teri G, my body is holding up! I’m fighting soon. Hopefully the announcement will happen soon because I’m not supposed to say.

My second book is out! 😀 “How to Be Positive: Mental Training by the Happy Warrior.” I introduce ten ways of thinking and then give example problems and ask the reader to think about how they would think about those situations in order to be more positive, or at least less negative. Check it out in the store of my website here:

I rediscovered Outlaw Star, the anime!
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I watched it in 1998 when I was 16! Now I found it in Japanese. It always feels different in Japanese in the native language it was intended to be, and I’m SURE they cut out the scenes when Gene stayed with the hooker in that hotel. HAH Or maybe I didn’t get it at the time.

I’m also working on One Piece. Ep 696 now. I tried and abandoned Hai to Gensou no Grimgar. No feasible plot and goals! Candy and I tried watching it together. Moving on to World Trigger. My internet has been sucking for the past 4 days so I watched Once Upon a Time season 5, the first four episodes. :/

More kids are coming to my kids class! I’m happy about that. Some of them are super young, though, and it’s hard to get them to train with the older kids. u_u Oh well. As long as a few young ones come, they can partner up.

4 year olds
My last few weeks of classes have been really good. One of my kids will do the NAGA in two weeks so I’m trying to do cram courses on how to do and defend the armbar. I don’t wanna teach the 4 year olds armbars, though, so it’s hard.
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Here’s one day’s group!

But I love them. 😀 I just invented a code that I finally implemented. I’ve been thinking about how I’m going to do it for a while now. My Judo teacher Harry Chandler in the Dalton Judo club in Mass used to give us the same speach every day when we sat in seiza after class. “Always listen to your parents and teachers. Don’t do drugs. Don’t do judo outside the dojo.” Etc etc. But I can never remember it and everyone is too hyper to sit still for my little speach. I was 15 when I started Judo but my kids are 4-7. lol
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So I made it four simple sentences that I say and they have to repeat: “I will respect my parents. I will respect my teachers. I will be nice to my classmates. I will always do my best.” It went over well yesterday! 😀 We had a trial student yesterday. I hope she comes back!

It’s very very VERY important for me to be a good example for the kids. They watch adults for the proper way to behave and copy our speech, actions, mannerisms, etc. I never curse, follow all the rules, I make sure no kids are around before I jaywalk….lol I’m not perfect, but I try to be. And I want to teach people that if you aim for perfection, even if you can’t achieve it, you’ll achieve a high level and high quality of things you do. Kids are our future, our treasure. And the parents are trusting teachers to basically help raise their kids for a few hours out of the day. I don’t have any kids and it doesn’t look like that will happen any time soon, so I’m going to do a good job with other people’s kids. :)

I went to the MMA awards last Friday! Thanks Adam Hunter for getting me a ticket and letting me be your second date. XD
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It was so much fun! I enjoyed predicting who was going to win, and loved the skits, especially Renato Laranja. Freaking hilarious. 😀 And Jabbawokeez. I’ve always been curious about them. I loved being able to sit down and chat with Adam and also Gina. :) I loved seeing Adam laugh so hard he wheezed. He’s a comedian making other people laugh so I’m glad he gets to laugh sometimes.

I ran into my teammates Vinny and his son, and Enzo. Vinny’s son has the same smile. XD
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Capitao is back! 😀 Our Brazilian brother who does his camps at Syndicate!
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Mike Pyle won his UFC fight last weekend! I’m so happy! I really look up to him. He gave me grappling lessons for a few months in payment for a Playstation 4 I got on TUF. lol I got the better end of that deal, for sure. I think I actually squealed like a little girl while watching the fight. @_@
John’s lockerroom post fight pic.
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I watched it at the Alehouse with Kerry and Emma.

My Mom’s best friend she met in elementary school just passed away, so my poor mom is suffering a lot. :/ I’m trying to be supportive.

training, (not) dating, UK fighter friend Kerry!

Posted in every day, fight, friends, fun, training on February 1st, 2016 by roxyfighter

Last week and this weekend were pretty good. Training is great, as usual. Kind of a struggle near the end. I had a hard day on Thursday where my brain just didn’t feel like it was working, and I got a headache. It kind of freaked me out doing kickboxing with a headache, so I did a few rounds and then stopped. :/ I’ve been working on some new combinations that I can’t really land in sparring yet. And I realized something about the shuffle hook. I can’t really do it unless my opponent is already moving in a certain way.

I’ve been doing jiu-jitsu with a gi a lot lately because I want to compete in a gi tournament soon. But I find myself doing stuff intended for a gi on the bottom in guard in MMA practice, which is a no no, and why I stopped focusing on GI in the first place. So I gotta take a break from it since I’m fighting soon.

Kerry Hughes from the UK is here visiting! She first stopped by when she came for The Ultimate Fighter tryouts weeks ago. Unfortunately for her, the 135 lb females didn’t have a big showing, so the UFC decided not to do 135-ers. :/ She decided to come back and train for her fight in BAMMA….which was dropped because her opponent decided she couldn’t make weight and wanted to fight up a weight class, and the promotion decided to give that girl priority…what the heck? Anyway, kudos to Kerry for trying to move on with her life and not make a big deal. I think she’s doing a kickboxing match on the same day I’m fighting. I think I’m fighting March 11th. I haven’t signed anything but I’m allowed to say that I’m fighting but not against who…. ;_;

Well it’s better than Japan where sometimes you can go an entire fight camp not having an opponent set and then get it set a week before.

So I’ve been upping my conditioning, like with stairs, burpies, and conditioning circuits. I noticed my stamina going up little by little.

I’ve started getting the services of Teri, a superstar masseuse who first came to Syndicate when Sorel was training for boxing. Then she massaged John and John recommended her to the fighters. Now she’s really busy. LOL omg with her and Jake Steckel in my corner (figuratively), I can function around my nagging pains. What a career-saver, seriously.

Kalecia (left)had taken a leave of absence and came back, so it’s great training with her again. Her striking is tricky.
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Saturday I did three five-minute rounds of conditioning circuit training, and then gi jiu-jitsu technique, and then some kickboxing sparring. I got punched in the eyeball in the third round and thought it was injured, but took a break, it stopped hurting, and I went back, which I’m glad.

Later that day, I met Kerry at the Miller’s Alehouse and we watched the UFC together.
kerry at the alehouse

I was really sad Josh Barnett Lost. ;_; And also Bader. Man, what was that diving takedown?!??! So sad. Miscalculation that proved fatal. Also Northcutt. People annoy me so much sometimes. People criticizing him for tapping to the head-arm choke. Obviously he felt it was tight or he wouldn’t have tapped. Who knows what he was feeling? Maybe he didn’t know how to escape because his jiu-jitsu game isn’t strong. Or maybe his shoulder muscles are just so bulky and built up that the opponent put his weight down enough to tap him. Whatever. Actually, I think everybody I cared about on that card lost.

One of my mentors Mike Pyle fights next week and HE WILL WIN!!! I’m always such a nervous wreck when my coaches, he or Tom fight. ug That reminds me I gotta go bet on Tom. XD lol I only wanna bet on people I know, because if they loose, I’ll be too sad they lost to really care if I lost money or not. Only like 20 bucks. I’m not a big gambler. “Filthy Tom Lawlor” is fighting March 5th. support him and get his awesome T shirt, where the proceeds go to him and not Reebok! 😀
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I’ve started watching the anime “D. Gray-Man” and also Hai to Gensou no Grimgar. Also, Legends of Tomorrow, and reading the Owari No Seraph manga.

I was just about to finish this journal entry and then saw someone on Facebook posted a suggestion for a dating site for lesbians in my facebook comments. I’m not a lesbian. ^^;; This is ALL YOUR FAULT, Kerry, because I decided to copy you and write a status update jokingly “hot date with Kerry at the Alehouse.” haha just kidding. I never post about guys because I’m shy…. ._. I haven’t had a boyfriend in 5 years. But maybe if guys think I’m a lesbian they won’t hit on me and make me shy. Well, nobody hits on me anyway…. that’s fine. I don’t really want to date. And there’s nothing wrong with being a lesbian. It might be nice not having to struggle understanding the opposite gender. ;_; I have a few friends who are lesbians! ANYWAY ending this blog entry. time to start a new awesome week!

Trip to Nashville, TN, and my seminar!

Posted in family and holidays, fun, training, work on January 24th, 2016 by roxyfighter

Training has been going great lately. I’ve been succeeding at techniques I’ve been learning and practicing, which is so cool. Every day is exciting – what awesome ninja attacks are the coaches going to teach me next?

On Thursday, I headed to Nashville, TN, to teach a seminar at KSA Martial Arts academy. Unfortunately, a huge Nor’easter snowstorm struck and messed up a lot of my plans. We had to cancel my Friday night portion of the seminar, but I gave a private lesson to my hosts, Liz and Cat. They are such excellent, good people. I love them so much. In the morning, I worked out in the hotel gym, and in the afternoon, they drove me through Centennial Park where I saw the recreation of the Parthenon.
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I didn’t get to go in since like 5 or so inches of snow had fallen and I didn’t have boots. I hate the snow now. :( I didn’t used to, but living in Massachusetts ruined it. Snow means discomfort and misery, basically. I’m sensitive to the cold and I always had to clean off my car and shovel etc.

But it was warm and toasty in the loving environment of my hosts. They took great care of me. After driving around for literally an hour (on roads that had barely been plowed because Nashville can’t handle the snow), coming upon restaurant after restaurant that was closed, we ended up at Ihop. I had gone there for breakfast. There was a sign on the door saying that they were closed due to weather, but people were still inside eating. The waiter saw me looking in sadly, and, shaking his head at his own compassion, waved for another customer to open the door for me, which was locked from the inside. Yay! My smile wins. :)

It took like an hour to get our food, but I was fine with that. :)

Then we went to the school, watched my fight, rebooked my cancelled plane ticket, and trained some. We geeked out with lightsabers.

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They cooked me a delicious dinner of fish and I went to bed early.

Saturday I was supposed to teach a kid’s class, but only one family came with two kids, a 5 year old boy and 7 year old girl. They had fun, though. I was so happy they said Judo was their background because I used to teach Judo as a senior belt at my Judo dojo! That was my first experience ever teaching. I taught them jiu-jitsu stuff like rolls, shrimps, mount, escape from the mount, etc.
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Lunch was a rushed turkey burger and then I taught my seminar from 1:30 to 4:30ish. It was scheduled to be 1-5:30 but that’s so long! Especially with the way I was driving them. I’m used to doing and teaching a fast-paced class full of drilling and positional sparring.
I guess other seminar styles are different where there’s a lot of explanations and talking, but I basically made them drill techniques and do situation sparring the whole time. They were so tired. lol I was tired. I think everybody had fun. I was REALLY impressed with that group! They all picked up what I taught them and had various successes! I’m glad. 😀

Shaine came! (An assistant coach on Miesha’s team on The Ultimate Fighter Season 18 who I made friends with friends after the show.) 😀 After the seminar we sparred MMA for two rounds.

roxy and shaine rash guard 😀 (sponsor) and shorts (sponsor)

At the seminar, I met so many different kids of people with interesting backgrounds. I hope they keep in touch on social media. I want to go back when the weather is nicer.
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I’ll never do another winter seminar in a place where snowfall is possible. Oh well.

On Friday morning, I got inspired about what to write for my next book! I had an idea but wasn’t sure how to structure it, so I was thinking and thinking and kind of frustrated. It just came to me suddenly, and I foudn myself on the hotel computer typing emails to myself of the beginning of my story. My second book should be coming out very very soon, so I’m glad to have another project to work on 😀

My new friend Kerry from the UK is coming to train this coming week for two weeks! I’m excited!

Christmas trip and Sorel’s boxing fight

Posted in family and holidays on December 31st, 2015 by roxyfighter

I left Vegas Dec 24th in the morning and arrived in Boston that evening. My dad and Marion picked me up and brought me to their house. Then Q arrived and we hung out when Dad and Marion went to a Christmas party. Q brought me broccoli and tuna! I loved spending time with her! We played Cribbage, which is super hard, and Hanabi, which is hard because it’s a memory game, and I couldn’t remember the clues she told me. Lol

On Christmas, we woke up, I ate a broccoli-tuna wrap. And Marion’s pumpkin pie, which is the best in the world. She’s an amazing cook. I got to chat with my dad a lot!

My step siblings Chris and Steffi came and we opened presents. I received very nice presents and enjoyed watching everybody open theirs. Thank you!

I decided from day one that I didn’t care about sticking to my diet and didn’t even try to exercise. I don’t have a fight for a while – plenty of time to work it off. I was trying togive my body a break since a few things are hurting a lot, so I tried doing absolutely NOTHING.

Saturday was a day with no plans. We went to the Paperstore to look for Christmas cards and wrapping paper. Then lunch at Chili’s. Before that, we picked up my car. I thought I might miss the closing, but I actually had to wait on a long line. In the evening, we ate shrimp and lasagna for dinner and just chilled, watching hockey.

Sunday I woke up, had breakfast, chatted with family, then drove to Aunt Connie’s. Took me longer than I thought, but I reached there around 6 PM! Ate a fish dinner and spend some time with her.
Monday we chatted in the morning and then Aunt Connie’s harp tuner lady came, and I went out for lunch with my cousin Alison and her baby girl Pia Rose, who I met for the first time!
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Cutie!! We went to Café Angelique! Then met Aunt Connie for tea at Starbucks.
roxy and pia rose

Then we went to Alison’s husband’s Francisco’s Kenpo Karate kids event award ceremony.
He asked me to give a speech on the fly!
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And Joolz stopped by to visit and gave me a Christmas present! Thank you!!
Got home a little late at 9 PM but that’s okay.
If you are interested in American Kenpo karate for you or your kids, Vigoroux Kenpo Karate studio is the best! He’s an 8th degree black belt. 197 Boulevard
Hasbrouck Heights, New Jersey

Found out my flight got delayed from Tuesday morning until Wednesday evening! Bah!

Woke up Tuesday, went to the gym with cousin Adele.
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You can really see the family resemblance here because we have the same shaped jaw and chin. XD The Modafferi chin. The bloodline is strong…in addition to physical attributes, Modafferi’s tend to be strong-willed. 😀 I love my family so much.

I babysat Pia and Tino with Alison and Francisco while Adele was at the violin concert with Aunt Connie and Joey. Man, kids are so much work! I respect my parents so much the more time I spend with babies. Pia was constantly happy. I held her while Alison cooked. I helped Francisco build his facebook page a little better.

I woke up Wednesday and felt horrible. Threw up. Diarrhea. For hours. Took Imodium and managed to drive to JFK and return my car no problem. Got the chills later in the day. Flight got delayed from 5 PM to 7:30 PM. At least we took off! I got home at 10:30 PM which was like 1:30 AM on the East Coast. So miserable because my body was so stuff from sitting still and I had the chills.

But at least I got home!!

Woke up Thursday feeling a little better. Did BJJ technique with Enzo. Tried to hit the bag but felt crappy. Then this massage lady worked on me a bit and I feel a little better!

I came home and watched the fight that that I missed on Periscope. Sorel Mizzi and Rast, two famous poker players who decided to box each other after two months of training and give the ticket sales money to charity! I watched Sorel train with John almost every day before my lesson. He worked hard! Good job!! And HE WON! 😀 😀 😀 Just proves that John Wood is the best coach everrrrrrr. haha the camera guy was standing right in Sorel’s corner, so we could hear everything John was saying in the corner. “If you drop your hands one more f*cking time I’m gonna get in there and punch you myself.” XD haha love it

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I didn’t go out for New Years….

Brittany’s visit and lots of UFCs!

Posted in family and holidays, friends, fun on December 13th, 2015 by roxyfighter

Brittany arrived on Thursday morning! I took her to Syndicate and I did MMA team practice.

Roxy vs Jo Jo Monkey King. Crazy guy.
roxy vs monkey king

I trained harder than I’ve trained in a long time and felt pretty good, and really happy with my techniques!

I went out to SkinnyFats afterwards and ate delicious flatbread with chicken and a milkshake.
roxy and bri shakes
We went to the UFC after that and got to see awesome fights, including Paige vs Rose, Mike Chiesa from Sikjitsu who had done half his camp at Syndicate under John Wood, Northcut and Jesus. I mean Elias Theodorou, who my friends and I feel strongly resembles Jesus. It’s the hair. And it helps that it’s easier to say Jesus than his real name. Please nobody think I’m being blasphemous here. lol
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We ended up sitting next to Liam McGeary by accident! He fought and beat Tito Ortiz in Bellator! He was super cool and we chatted about the fights going on.

When Brittany and I were leaving we RAN INTO ELIAS. He knew who I was!! I was so excited about that. Apparently he was on TUF Nations, which was one of the seasons I haven’t watched.
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He lost by decision but I think he should have won! :(

Bri and I went to go eat and hang out with friends afterwards.
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I started feeling weird…cold….shivery…achy. Weird. By 10:30 after eating, I felt REALLY crappy. We met friends and chatted a bit and I started suspecting I was sick…maybe food poisoning? by 11 I started feeling feverish so I excused myself and went home early. :( dang!

It was food poisoning and I got the chills. Lost my appetite. Which never happens even when I have the flu.
I tossed and turned all night.
I felt so bad that I couldn’t really entertain Bri-chan much. I dropped her off to go watch UFC weigh ins that afternoon. I basically slept on and off all day. It took me all day to watch one episode of TUF nations. *_*

I picked up Bri-chan and we watched UFC on my TV at home. Sad for Joe Lauzon, my favorite fighter, but Evan had been training with Chaz, our Syndicate Muay Thai coach, so my team was happy. :(
Kawajiri won, yay! I don’t care that it was kind of an inactive fight. I’m just glad he won. I’ll always root for the Japanese guy.
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I’m so glad Ryan Hall won, even though I think overall Artem was the better fighter. I love seeing a normal looking jiu-jitsu guy win. 😀 He played his game well. w00t woot!

Saturday I woke up feeling better! I went to BJJ belt promotions and got two stripes on my purple belt. Thank you, Vinny. I know I have so much more to learn!
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I want to learn fasterrrrrrrrr. There’s not enough time in the day. I want to feel like I deserve it. I HAVE been training every day since Vinny became the main coach at Syndicate months ago. And teaching kids a lot of gi, while learning from Rick and Chris. I’ve been purple belt for like 8 years and picking up gi for about 2. I want to do BJJ tournaments to see how I match up against other purple belts.
I still bow when I shake hands, like a Japanese person. lol
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After that, Bri and I just hung around for a while and then went to watch the UFC in Town Square’s Alehouse. Jamie and Jenny and Perry and Robyn came over and we all sat together! That was fun 😀 CRAZY awesome card. I should not have had nachos so close to food poisoning because I got an upset stomach again. -_-
bri nachos again
Holy Mackerel , I was actually disappointed in Conor vs Aldo. I wanted to see a longer fight. Reminded me of 90% of Ronda’s fights. :( Weidman and Rockhold was amazing and impressive.

Today is Sunday and I brought Bri to the airport. :/ I’m sorry I lost us a day together because I was sick, but thanks for coming back to my home to watch the UFC together. :)

Tomorrow is TUF tryouts for my teammates and friends! I’ll make an appearance before going to training.